In light of the 50 Shades of Grey trailer coming out today, quick reminder that that book is about an abusive and controlling relationship, not BDSM.
Fanfiction (published or not) is important for women of all ages to explore gender roles and sexuality in a way that is less stigmatized and more accessible.
But do not do the BDSM community a disservice by calling the relationship described in the book a standard BDSM experience.
A 14 year-old boy was recently raped at knife-point by a 20 year-old woman. When the story broke, it was primarily men who claimed he should have enjoyed it. It was feminists who validated his pain and spoke in support of him.
This is why we need feminism.
"but men get raped too-"
AND LOOK HOW YOU HANDLED THAT
On the road like Bonnie and Clyde
Hey, sis. Great photo.
YouTube comments aren’t “just the Internet.” They’re not the product of a group of otherwise nice guys who suddenly become evil when they wear a veil of anonymity. YouTube comments are actually a nightmarish glimpse into the sexist attitudes that define the fabric of our own existence in the “real world,” a world that, like YouTube, is owned and dominated by men. The most terrifying gift that the Internet has given us is that it’s shown us how men honestly perceive the world: as a place where women exist exclusively for their sexual pleasure.
In the wake of VidCon, and as more and more women start speaking up about the harassment they face online, it’s time to start realizing that our narrative of progress is deeply flawed. Things aren’t getting better for women on the Internet; they’re deteriorating and ignoring the problem amounts to being complicit in it.
"For women on the Internet, it doesn’t get better" by Samantha Allen (via femfreq)
If there are any psychology / sociology grad students looking for research projects, I bet it would be very easy to find a bunch of internet douchebags who would gladly spew their effed up world views onto your carefully designed surveys.
I would really like to know more about these people…whether they’re “otherwise nice guys” IRL, or whether they have no friends because everyone has figured out how much they suck, or whether they have a social group where it’s acceptable to be, like, a terrible person.
That would be simple and useful research to do, and also probably pretty easy to get published.
I personally often find myself assuming very specific things about people who leave these kinds of comments, but up to this point I’ve never seen anyone do any actual research on what sorts of people they are. My assumptions could be entirely incorrect…and, indeed, probably are (since, in my experience, an individuals assumptions about sociological phenomena have a very low chance of matching with the complicated reality of culture.)
If anyone does this…put me in the acknowledgements!(via edwardspoonhands)
Shopping for clothes when you have big boobs is normally really annoying esp when you like drapey things or want something that cinches at the waist cause you always get stuff like this
when the hell did this get over a thousand notes
Christ this speaks to me on an emotional level
So much. Add in wanting three-quarter length sleeves and shopping for tops is the epitome of frustration.
Debi Jackson reading “That’s Good Enough”
Mother of a trans* daughter. She…her six points are amazing.
For my trans* friends or for allies who want to pass it along to people who need to be informed.
Notes for United Kingdom: Aceteminophen = Paracetamol. Naproxen brand names include Naprosyn and Arthroxen. Codeine widely sold - works best in combination with other pain killers, e.g. co-codamol (paracetamol & codeine) - can cause stomach upset. Always useful to discuss with pharmacists what may work best for you.
I keep forgetting what the differences are in the over the counter pain relievers, so I made a handy chart.
THANK YOU OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
As someone who suffers from migraines too often, this is perfect. Please share this helpful chart!!
i’m feeling sick
no no no no
2030 is when I get to retire. Bring it on.
- breath in for 4 seconds
- hold your breath for 7 seconds
- exhale breath for 8 seconds
repeat once or twice more.
This causes an autonomic nervous system shift from a sympathetic (fight or flight reaction) state to a parasympathetic response.
Use this for panic/anxiety attacks, exams, presentations.
Never not reblog
I ask the American commentators, please stop announcing that Landon Donovan is the “all-time U.S. leading goal scorer.” He is not. With 57 international goals, he’s not even in the Top Five. The all-time U.S. leading goal scorer is Abby Wambach, with 167 goals, followed by Mia Hamm (158), Kristine Lilly (130), Michelle Akers (105) and Tiffeny Milbrett (100). In fact, Abby Wambach is the all-time leading goal scorer in the world, among all soccer players, male or female. (via World Cup Soccer Stats Erase The Sport’s Most Dominant Players: Women)
What the fuck is this bullshit and why was it recommended for me?
It’s not like men are involved in the creation of the baby or anything.
I mean shit, I understand that pregnancy is an extremely strenuous thing on the woman, but that doesn’t mean that a dude can’t be proud of the fact that he’s going to be a father.
Hmm. Weird how someone would want to be considered a part of the pregnancy…
There goes all of my respect for Mila Kunis.
My goodness, women like this have some fucking nerve. Good luck Ashton.
Pregnancy is a very dangerous time for cis-women. Until cis-men are capable of nine months of pain without the ability to take painkillers, followed by hours of one of the most painful experiences a human can undergo, I agree with Mila Kunis. It is your child. Not your pregnancy. You don’t get a fucking medal for sticking your dick inside someone and impregnating them, you get a child. So no, you don’t need a fucking spotlight highlighting your months of work and pain and the fact that you can potentially die trying to bring life into the world when you have not undergone any of the physical effort.
Things you can expect during pregnancy: Anemia, urinary tract infections, constipation, mental health conditions including intense depression, hyperemesis gravidarm (basically when persistent vomiting is more than just morning sickness and requires hospitalization). Not to mention there are dozens of infections that can cause serious problems. (x) (x)
Oh and the fact that 20% of pregnancies end in miscarriages which obviously requires hospitalization for the pregnant woman and causes a lot of emotional trauma.
Or that you can’t consume alcohol, most types of fish, you can’t expose yourself to hot water (or any heat, really), or get an x-ray. You cannot eat lunch meats, raw sprouts (radishes, alfalfa, etc.), soft cheeses, anything unpasteurized is out, as are foods with raw or undercooked eggs. And caffeine can lead to miscarriages, so say goodbye to coffee, teas, and chocolate. (x) (x) (x)
About 2 million pregnancy losses occur annually in the U.S.; 6 million babies are born. 25% of pregnancies are lost.
14.5% of pregnant women will experience at least one pregnancy complication.
11% of women are diagnosed with post partum depression.
800 women die because of pregnancy-related problems in the U.S. annually. (x)
Labor can last for 36 hours or more. You’re in a room full of strangers, who are all seeing your vagina, your blood, your shit, your piss, and your agony. It’s common for tearing to occur during the delivery (x) and after the baby is born you still have to deliver the placenta (essentially an organ).
Pregnancy is terrifying, dangerous, and uncomfortable. None of you have the right to shit on Mila Kunis for telling the truth: You do not deserve the spotlight of your wife’s pregnancy. So get over yourselves. Yes, the father CAN be proud, and he should be. But it’s not his pregnancy. He is not the one who will endure it.
It is not weird that someone would want to be involved in their wife’s pregnancy. It is weird that you have the fucking nerve to lose respect for someone reminding you that the father is not the pregnant one in the picture.
So please, stop.
Today in male entitlement: now women ”have some nerve” if they remind men that they are not, in fact, the pregnant ones.
Okay, look. The “we’re pregnant” thing always pissed me off, and I told my husband not to say it, but you have to understand where that phrase came from. People came up with it as a way to get men more involved in their partner’s pregnancies. The idea is that the pregnancy is not a thing that the woman deals with and the man ignores, but a thing that he should be actively involved with by supporting her, learning about the pregnancy, attending obgyn appointments with her, asking questions, and so forth. It’s not about men trying to claim the spotlight and the advantages. It’s about them being involved in what’s happening to their partners.
That said, I still hate the phrase.
Actually, he is quoted as saying “We’re having a baby” not “We’re pregnant”. I would object to the second, but not to the first, because preparing for a baby to come into the world can be a joint effort and the term is not necessarily biological.
quod cincta est breuibus mentula tonsa pilis,
hoc praestas, Labiene, tuae, quis nescit, amicae.
cui praestas, culum quod, Labiene, pilas?
"You pluck your chest, your legs, your arms, your cock is surrounded by trimmed short hairs; everyone knows you maintain this for your girlfriend, Labienus. But for whom, Labienus, do you maintain your ass hairs?"
Martial’s Epigrams, 2.62
1st Century AD
Rules: In a text post, list ten books that have stayed with you in some way. Don’t take but a few minutes, and don’t think too hard — they don’t have to be the “right” or “great” works, just the ones that have touched you. Tag [ten] friends, including me, so I’ll see your list. Make sure you let your friends know you’ve tagged them. Or, you know, just join in. Great fun.
1. Cordelia’s Honor by Lois McMaster Bujold (and hold Vorkosigan series)
2. The Catch Trap by Marion Zimmer Bradley
3. Merchanter’s Luck by C J Cherryh (and all the Merchanter/Union stories)
4. The Moon is a Harsh Mistress by Robert Heinlein
5. Jhereg by Steven Brust (and rest of series)
6. Interview with the Vampire by Anne Rice (plus Lestat and Queen of the Damned)
7. Clan of the Cave Bear by Jean Auel (and series)
8. Lord of the Rings by J R Tolkein
9. The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe by C S Lewis (and most of the series)
10. Wild Seed and Mind of My Mind by Octavia E. Butler (truly original)
tagging: all the people, stut—ter
I tie you up and force your mouth open. I shove chocolate cake down your throat. More and more and more. It hurts because I am being so rough, and because you are resisting and unprepared. You are choking. You can’t breathe. You keep half-vomiting chocolate cake and being forced to swallow your own vomit because I keep stuffing more cake down your throat.
“What’s wrong?” I ask. ”You love chocolate cake. You consensually eat chocolate cake all the time, so why aren’t you enjoying this? Oh, I get it… you don’t enjoy this because society TELLS you not to,” I conclude as I shove my fist down your throat, scratching you raw with my fingernails for the thousandth time. This time when you force yourself to swallow you taste blood, but at least we are defying societal norms. Remember, being unwillingly force-fed is healthy in small doses.